Excellence: a core value at Latin, and an aspiration that can interfere with mental health (Ava Falk)
Excellence: a core value at Latin, and an aspiration that can interfere with mental health

Ava Falk

Stigma: The Disease that Prevents Healing

December 1, 2021

As a Latin student who felt immense academic pressure during the fall of my senior year, taking seven weeks off of school to finally treat my mental health meant being alone in the fight against feelings of shame from the stigma surrounding mental illness. I had always put perceived “success” over my mental health to appear capable when inside I felt the opposite. Admitting my inability to continue in the duties I had once done seemingly easily made me feel isolated in the environment of my peers achieving the high academic success I was no longer able to uphold.
I finally understood what the stigma of mental health felt like—feeling like you are going against what everyone else expects of you to stop “achievements” and responsibilities and instead admit you need help.
Latin’s institutional competitiveness encourages students to continue schoolwork and extracurricular obligations past the hours they are required, lose sleep over their drive to get an “A” on a test, and participate in activities and classes just to increase their chances of attending a selective college that similarly encourages competitiveness.
Society sees mental illness as a flaw of the person who is suffering, dating back to the abuse of the first “lunatic asylums,” and this lasting stigma reached my home. My feelings were dismissed when I got overwhelmed with intense anxiety that prevented me from being able to walk into school, go to birthday parties, or even sleep. I felt that no one was aware of the struggle I was going through and that my own parents were afraid of my feelings. Those around me who were trying to help were driven by their desire to protect me from stereotypes, instead of trying to understand what I was going through. The way I was treated for my anxiety made me feel invalid and shameful.
Society’s lack of education around how to recognize and treat mental illness puts stereotypes in a position of power, controlling others’ perception of me and how to treat me. The perception I had of myself was controlled by stigma and dictated the way I did everything to hide my emotions instead of treating them. I was used to recognizing my panic as bad behavior, as if my feelings were an inconvenience to others. I started to believe that I deserved the restrictions and shame-inflicting comments that were made when I would show my anxiety, and it prevented me from ever speaking out or getting help.
I have been fighting intense anxiety alone since fifth grade and was not diagnosed or treated until the beginning of my senior year in high school. I felt judgment from those around me when I spoke out about my emotions. I was used to telling myself that I was weak, that my anxiety was a source of shame.
I wasn’t alone, though; most people suffering from mental illness do not receive treatment. Admitting one’s struggle is not as easy as it seems, as it makes you a possible victim of the public stigma that exists in our culture. Rooted from the beginning treatment of mental illness, offensive and untruthful stereotypes and discrimination still exist today.
I know that if students were taught to understand our limits and abilities, advocate for our health, and push ourselves in helpful ways, we would be given the tools we need to flourish in the long run and have a balanced, realistic, and sustainable academic routine. I reached my breaking point because I was striving for comparative success and not acknowledging my own needs. I wish I was taught the validity of taking a break instead of wasting my time ignoring my limits and not accepting my individuality to finally figure out how wise it is to prioritize health.
In a society that supports traits like dominance, discipline, and competition, the time needed to care for mental health is not provided and is sometimes deemed as a failure. Our world must give attention to validating the struggles each one of us goes through. It will take institutional recognition and action of community members to change how these demands and expectations are framed to put an end to the feelings of worthlessness, and the depression that shame feeds.
The unhealthy demands of success is one example of the institutional stigma nearly half of our country’s adults suffer from. This neglect contributes to the fears of being treated poorly, losing jobs, or losing “livelihoods.” Many school and work environments invalidate taking time off, which makes it hard for students and employees, respectively, to get treatment, be safe, and feel fulfilled while taking on life’s responsibilities.
Latin community members must recognize the value of prioritizing mental health. Spreading awareness with editorials like these can only do so much; it is up to current students, employees, partners, children, and friends to use their control in language, actions, and support to fight against the stereotypes, validate mental illness, and destigmatize “struggling” itself.
A community must be open in order to create an environment where its members address and talk openly about mental illness, which is necessary to fight against shame and increase the outcome of getting treatment. Setting an example by implementing different forms of therapy in one’s routine and promoting it destigmatizes treatment, something that is often perceived as selfish, embarrassing, or again, shameful. Providing space for therapy, after-school programs teaching cognitive behavior therapy, breaks from schoolwork, time with family, and hobbies to coexist in job, home, and school routines would fight against the ongoing epidemic of stigma.
Shame had infected me, prevented me from being myself and being brave enough to get the help I needed. Surrendering to the stigma in order to break the barrier between suffering from mental illness, and fighting against it, should not be a necessary step in getting treatment. To move on from that added struggle, as a society, we must all work to replace traits of dominance, discipline, and competition, with openness, communication, and connection.

Note: If you are a Latin community member who is struggling or has struggled with mental illness, Latin provides many resources to help. Whether talking with our school’s counselors or finding community through joining our Mental Health Alliance Club at Latin, we are here to help, even when help feels scarce, and I am here in support. Reaching out for help takes strength, but I hope my experience can shed light to the outcome being worth the effort.

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    Randy FifieldFeb 21, 2022 at 11:26 pm

    Thank you for sharing!! Your actions and words are aligned. Your vulnerability and understanding to speak will change the trajectory of those suffering –
    You are enough !! Honoring your needs was so smart – stepping off the hamster wheel is a prospective worth embracing – the race to know where needs to be acknowledged. Thank you for sharing ❤️ Your whole hearted words are so important and so are you!! Keep utilizing your skills and rest when you need to – all my love ; Randy Fifield

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    Dorothy MalanDec 29, 2021 at 5:59 pm

    What courage and strength it had for you to push through your difficult time.
    I hope you are continuing to get help and that you can use your wisdom to help others not as fortunate.
    My son suffers from major depression from childhood cancer. There are a million reasons to need help and as a society, we need to strive to break the stigma.

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    Ayesha Ali AhmedDec 8, 2021 at 5:03 pm

    Keely, thank you for speaking up for not just yourself but perhaps for others who aren’t yet ready to add their voice to this incredibly important conversation about mental health. Sending you good wishes and Godspeed in your own healing process.

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    peter kDec 8, 2021 at 12:28 pm

    the world needs more people like you

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    Christine GarofoliDec 8, 2021 at 10:54 am

    I am so inspired by this article, thank you Keely. What a remarkable perspective and voice you have. I shared this with my hood friend who is high school guidance counselor at place where parents/community feels similar to Latin. She said it’s been a “trauma unit” this fall and ambulance has been out multiple times to help kids who are suffering. It would be great if parents and community here in California could read this as well. Thank you for taking the time to write this, it’s a very important topic. Glad you are breaking free of stigma and hopefully feeling more yourself.

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    Maureen ScorsoneDec 7, 2021 at 6:20 pm

    Your story and observations will help so many who read it. You are a remarkable young lady . We love you! ❤️

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    Jessie HehmeyerDec 7, 2021 at 5:51 pm

    Dear Keely,
    I applaud your courage in sharing your story and your stand that your suffering be a gateway for societal change and healing for others. Your bighearted bravery is an inspiring gift.
    Much Love,

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    Larry MollDec 7, 2021 at 10:01 am


    Thank you for Sharing.

    So important what you shared and what you are doing to help Others.

    Love you

    God Bless you!!❤️

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    Fabian PereyraDec 7, 2021 at 8:54 am

    Love you Keely! Courageous and wise. Hopefully, many more young, and not so young, people will follow your example. Fabian

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    Bonnie RothmanDec 6, 2021 at 10:45 pm

    Thank you for sharing your wise observations. We all need to invest in ourselves with self-care, and in those around us with acceptance and support. If we do, we will have more to share.

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    Mary LaskyDec 6, 2021 at 10:40 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. Your article gives a voice for others who may be just like you or have been on a similar path for a while. You are brave and also strong to stand up for people who need to know it’s ok to get help! Great article. Much love, Mary

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    Alexis KertsikoffDec 6, 2021 at 10:11 pm

    Keely, you put words to feelings all of us experience and have experienced in some way. How many students will be validated in their own struggles, coping with unhealthy demands and expectations, to their own injury. This speaks beyond the plight for university acceptance. Anyone who gets a better grip on balance and self-care will find the recipe for true success in life. Very proud of you, Keely.

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    Ashley RockwoodDec 6, 2021 at 9:39 pm

    Keely, thank you for sharing this with not only your peers but the entire community. Conversations on mental health are at the utmost importance and articles like this are what will make significant change. Thank you.

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    Cheryl CutinhoDec 6, 2021 at 2:19 pm

    Bravo Keely! Your article will help so many students who can relate but don’t know where to go for help. Thank you for being brave and for your honesty❤️

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    Tim KendrickDec 2, 2021 at 11:48 am

    Thanks, Keely. You’ve done the K-Unit proud with this piece and opened the eyes of the entire community to many important issues. Thank you!

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    Stephanie Rever ChuDec 2, 2021 at 11:17 am

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, Keely, and for helping reduce the stigma of mental health treatment. So grateful for your encouragement to others to seek support, too.

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    Anneliese KranzDec 2, 2021 at 8:58 am

    Keely, I agree with Ms. Fields 100%. This is a beautiful article, and you are such a wonderful writer. I am so proud of you, and your ability to share your story shows so much strength. I hope this inspires others to be vulnerable and open up too.

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    Mary Claire MollDec 1, 2021 at 9:08 pm

    I am forever in awe of your strength and commitment to justice and truth. May your star continue to shine a light toward change and hope: both for yourself and those around you. So very proud of you; today and always. Love, Mom

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    Ken MollDec 1, 2021 at 3:35 pm

    Keely – I am so proud of you, your growth and your strength and drive to share your experience in an effort to help others. Dad.

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    Gabriel Di GennaroDec 1, 2021 at 3:26 pm

    Keely! Thank you for your vulnerability and thoughtfulness in sharing your important story. As someone who will be receiving treatment for my own mental health very soon, I hear you, and I’m grateful for you!

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    Alexandra FieldsDec 1, 2021 at 1:43 pm

    Keely, this is beautifully written and such an important article. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with our community!